We care for others. That’s what we do as mothers. We care and care, but not always enough for ourselves. If we do not take care of ourselves, who will? And if we are not cared for, who can care for those we love? Self-care is not a selfish act, no, indeed it is a selfless one. But why do we run from it? Why do we prioritize everything else in front of it? Why is it so hard to embrace, to cultivate, to put into practice?
It’s not about massages and facials (though there’s nothing wrong with those). It’s not about yoga class and new clothes (though these things may be a part of it). Self care is about saying "no" often, and mindfully, consciously saying "yes". It’s about listening to yourself and understanding what it is that you truly need. Self care is about speaking kindly to yourself, it’s about giving yourself opportunities to grow and also to rest. It’s about sitting with yourself and listening to what it is that you have to say, what it is that you need to make known.
So often we as mothers put our health, our nutrition, our sleep, our creativity, our rejuvenation and our growth last. But no, no we cannot. If we do not make ourselves a priority, if we do not stand up for ourselves and understand the value of self care, then who will?
So, mama, sit with yourself. Find space and time to dial in. Tune in. Find your center and dig deep. What are you lacking? What are you needing? What are you missing in this life? Listen. And then listen some more. You are strong and resilient and so amazing. But even a fire that shines so brightly needs to be tended. If you are to be a light for those you love, you must find ways to feed yourself. So begin. This is important.